Minnie Driver says listening to from a Good Will Hunting producer that she wasn’t “hot enough” to play her Oscar-nominated position “could have been way more damaging than it was,” however nonetheless says as a younger Hollywood expertise, it was “devastating” to listen to.
In a brand new interview with The Cut, the Starstruck actress opened up in regards to the experiences of breaking out in Hollywood as a 20-something girl, together with the extraordinary public curiosity round her private life and the damaging issues stated to actresses about their seems. While talking about her 2016 revelation — that an unnamed Good Will Hunting producer instructed her she wasn’t “hot enough” to play the movie’s feminine lead, Skylar, Driver defined why the remark was so damaging at the moment.
“It was devastating. To be told at 26 that you’re not sexy when you maybe just got over all your teenage angst and started to think, you know, ‘Maybe, in the right light and the right shoes and the right dress, I’m all right,’” she stated.
Driver stated feedback just like the one she obtained that distill a performer all the way down to their “sexiness” — no matter whether or not these statements come from “a man or woman or nonbinary person” — are “so dismissive.”
“By the way, that is something that has not changed — there are still just times when people are like ‘she’s too old’ or ‘she’s too tall,’” the Speechless actress stated. “I’ve always thought about how things get distilled. There’s this notion of one part of you being ‘the thing’ that will block all these other aspects of who you are. That’s a huge frustration as an actor.”
While Driver admitted she had insecurities about her seems rising up, and dealing in a tradition that instructed her that appears “were the currency I was meant to pursue,” she didn’t cave to trade strain — and she or he’s grateful she didn’t.
“I thank God that I didn’t do a ton of stuff that I could have then gone and done … It could have been way more damaging than it was,” she stated. “I had such a lovely family going, ‘Fuck that. You’re gorgeous on all these levels. And if one person doesn’t think that you’re pretty enough, fuck it.’”
The Oscar-nominated actress additionally mirrored on courting costar and Good Will Hunting cowriter Matt Damon throughout filming, proper as the 2 have been breaking out in Hollywood. In 1998, Driver spoke in regards to the cut up — a break up she realized out about after Damon introduced they have been now not collectively throughout an interview with Oprah — with the Los Angeles Times.
“It’s horrendous breaking up with someone anyway, but to have it be so public and to be cast in a role that I would never play if they were paying me — this wronged woman!” she stated on the time. “It’s unfortunate that Matt went on ‘Oprah’; it seemed like a good forum for him to announce to the world that we were no longer together, which I found fantastically inappropriate. Of course, he was busy declaring his love for me on David Letterman a month previously.”
Speaking to The Cut, the actress mentioned being “ill-equipped” to this point at that age, particularly within the public eye.
“Here’s this bumbling human, trying to do this thing. And suddenly this exterior thing starts happening, which is fame, paparazzi,” she stated. “Young people are so ill-equipped to deal with these things, which snowball: falling madly in love and then breaking up with someone.”
Driver goes on to speak about how the break-up was sophisticated even additional by the truth that they have been each public figures not simply operating in the identical circles, however actually seeing one another’s faces all over the place.
“When you break up with someone, the best thing that you can do is not see them. But when you break up with someone who themselves has just become famous, it is unavoidable that you will see them everywhere. And it is a particular kind of torture,” she defined.
“My best friend, Alex, was the most hilarious person to go through that with,” the actress added. “She was like, ‘Oh my God, there’s another billboard — don’t go out there before you’ve had coffee with rum in it!’ God, what a fucking nightmare!”
Despite all of that, Driver stated, “it will always be this lovely, beautiful romance” — a component of it that “never got reported in the press.”
“Don’t get me wrong, there was drama,” she continued. “But there was also my dad holding my hand at the Oscars, just being like, ‘What an extraordinary moment!’ And ‘I’m not going to let you miss this, I’m going to pinch you and make you keep remembering that this might never happen again.’”